Parenting can be the toughest assignment on earth, but it can also be the most rewarding. What a privilege and opportunity to help shape the next generation!

Model P31 Fit by Bridget McCray 


You’ve written your S.M.A.R.T, goals, as we discussed in the last couple of articles, and you have been doing well for the first few weeks. You’ve been mindful of what you’re eating, and you’ve deliberately made time to exercise at least three times a week.

Then, a co-worker picks up a couple of boxes of doughnuts to surprise everyone, and they’re your favorite. Uh oh! After thanking your co-worker for being so thoughtful, you eat not one, not two, but three of those sweet treats. Now, you’re beating yourself up for having indulged. Does that sound about right?

Perhaps, you’d carved out time in your already-tight schedule to walk in the park with a friend four days that week, not knowing that “Mother Nature” would not cooperate. There were thunderstorms on two of those days, and you missed that time to get your body moving. You felt frustrated because you didn’t have any other available time in your calendar for physical activity. You prefer being outdoors, but your available times to exercise don’t always coincide with nice weather. Do you ask yourself, “What’s the use?” and give up on working out?

Our emotions are powerful and play an important part in our lives, even in our efforts to adapt a healthier lifestyle. Things happen that we don’t always foresee. That’s life. We don’t have to beat ourselves up. We don’t have to give up. We can learn how to make adjustments. We do have options.

To the person who indulged in the doughnuts, that can’t be undone. Own it. However, she can make a better choice at the next meal. She could also choose to eat a good breakfast, and/or maybe drink a bottle of water to feel full, where there’d be less room for temptation. There are options.

The one whose workouts were curtailed by the storms could perhaps invite a friend to join her to powerwalk in the mall, go to a fitness class, or even follow an online video or a DVD to move her body until the weather improves. There are options.

As we’re learning how to make adjustments, it’s a good idea to have at least one loved one on whom we can depend for encouragement and accountability.

When you beat yourself up for making an impulsive food choice, that friend will remind you that your habits are changing for the better and that the one choice does not have to define your journey. In other words, he offers encouragement.

When you get bothered and want to pass on working out, because inclement weather wrecked your plans, that family member will remind you that your health is too important for you to skip it. In other words, she offers accountability.

You can have long-term success on your wellness journey. You can learn to make adjustments. Remember that there are options. Here’s to a healthier you!

Bridget McCray
Contributing Writer

Author, H.E.A.L.T.H.: It’s Not Rocket Science (My Journey to a Healthier Me)

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Diesel: The Dittleberry's Diva is an extraordinary tale of "Good vs. Evil by Cindy H. Reed 


Diesel always knew she was gifted, blessed, and one of God's chosen. She could see spirits and sense their presence—both good and evil. She could also clearly hear the voice of the Lord, and she knew He had plans for her life.

Satan is on a mission to rewrite Revelation. He wants to gather lost souls, gain more followers, and build a stronger army on Earth. He believes he has the power to alter what has been foretold about his demise, and he works diligently to turn the tide in his favor. He sees himself as the victor!

Will Diesel be able to save the lives of two kidnapped girls who are intended to be human sacrifices in Satan's induction ceremony?

Will Satan's army of demons possess the lost boys on the college campus?

Will Diesel choose to listen to God's direction or will she run away from her God-given mission?

Diesel: The Dittleberry's Diva is an extraordinary tale of "Good vs. Evil," written for audiences of all ages!

Humbly Yours by Val Crawford 

Remain in HIM

ABBA FATHER – Thank YOU once again for the opportunity to share with another. Thank YOU for YOUR Word. Speak LORD! YOUR servant-daughter is listening! Let the words that flow from this pen provide edification, strengthen, and to provide peace and a hope where needed in the Matchless Name LORD JESUS!

If you remain in ME and MY Words remain in you, ask what you will and it will be granted to you …

(John 15:7)


P-raise  -  Glorify, Honor, Adore, Worship

R-epentance  -  sorrow, remorse, regret

A-doration  -  Esteem, Admiration, Respect, Worship

Y-ES to HIS Will!  … Enough said?

E-xultation  -  Euphoric, Ecstatic Delight

R-everence  - Amazed Astonishment, Worship

It makes sense, doesn’t it? “If you remain in ME and MY Words remain in you,” … ask for what you want … and I will give it to you. Just like that. BUT … in the words of wise, ole, Rafiki of ‘The Lion King,’ “Look haarrrder…”

Pay attention, Beloved! It’s a set-up!  Yes, it is! A wonderful set-up … but a set-up, indeed!

If you remain in HIM and HIS Words remain in you, you will soon discover that the words coming out of your mouth … wait for it! … are HIS Words! And THAT is not a bad thing at all! Because ABBA FATHER has a Plan for you! And it is a Plan to bring you a future and a Hope (that is to say, “expectations full of confidence!”); a Plan for your Good and not evil; GOD plans for you (us) to be in Good health, even as your (our) soul flourishes!

Ahh … Now I get it! ‘Remain in ME! Keep MY Words in you! I ALWAYS Honor MY WORD!

If HIS Words are in me – if I am feeding on and filling up on HIS WORD, HIS WORD is going to start coming out of me! And when HE hears “the words that are coming out of my mouth,” HE recognizes it as HIS WORD! As my words (will) shift to HIS (Words) WILL for me… as I start to regurgitate HIS WILL, in words and actions, HE Honors HIS WORD!! And the Good News is HIS WORD will not return to HIM empty! HE WILL Act on HIS PROMISES!

As we walk in (remain in) HIS Word, get ready for Advancement! Get ready for Increase! Get ready to Expand! Get ready for ELEVATION!!!

So, let us Glorify HIM with worship-full adoration; Let us be so remorseful that we turn away from anything that makes HIM sad; Let us with respectful admiration say YES to HIS WILL; and then with Euphoric Ecstatic Delight, continue in Astonished Amazement at the open-ended Blessings that HE continues to shower is in, Worship HIM with our whole hearts!

Val Crawford
Contributing Writer

Model P31 Moms by Bridget McCray 

Detour or End of the Road?

While on the way to teach a fitness class one morning, I was driving in the lane I normally use to get to the next highway. What I didn’t realize was that, due to construction, the traffic pattern had changed from the previous week. This meant the lane in which I was driving would no longer take me to where I wanted to go.

I felt frustrated because I’d missed my exit and knew I’d have to go farther than usual to get off the highway and get to the right path. I exited as soon as I could and pulled up my destination. The voice map said to turn left, yet my instinct said to do the opposite since that was the general direction I needed to go. 

I followed my gut, knowing there had to be an easier way to get to the correct highway and traveling in the right direction, which turned out to be the case. The detour took about ten minutes, yet I still arrived safely to my destination and was even 45 minutes early.

So…why did I share all of this? Life lessons, of course! I had to choose to:
1. Own the mistake (Having to make a detour for not paying closer attention)
2. Make the necessary adjustments, based on what I knew (General direction of my destination)
3. Follow my instinct (Actually, drive in the direction I “felt in my gut”)

As parents, are we willing to do these same things regarding our children:

1. Own the mistakes we make with them? Perhaps:
  • Not setting clear boundaries
  • Speaking to them as though they were less than human, in the name of “establishing authority” 
  • Ignoring them
  • Admitting that we’re learning too, and don’t always get it right
2. Make the necessary adjustments based on what we know? Maybe: 
  • Considering a change in our approach to communication to ensure they understand what we’re trying to convey
  • Discontinuing the notion of “that’s just how I’ve always done it”
  • Allowing them to respectfully have a voice
3. Follow our instinct? (For me, the Holy Spirit) 
  • Being willing to break traditions that are useless
  • Taking actions that may not make logical sense, but “something” inside says you should 

There is NO perfect parent on earth; that includes us. We ALL have room to grow, no matter the ages of our children. As long as we’re still breathing, there’s still time. What a blessing and a privilege to serve in this wonderful role, having opportunities to positively impact generations to come!

God has wonderful plans for His children for His glory. Be encouraged: A detour does not have to mean the end of the road! 
Bridget McCray
Contributing Writer

Author, H.E.A.L.T.H.: It’s Not Rocket Science (My Journey to a Healthier Me)

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Model P31 Moms by Bridget McCray 

Bridget McCray

Important Things?

Imagine a world where there were no broken children…a world in which no child suffered neglect at the hands of his (or her) own parents. “…but, I provide everything my child needs. He (or she) wants for nothing,” one might say.

Though the child may have every THING, would he have our focus if he needs to share a concern that a friend may harm himself, or would we be too busy looking at the big game or binge-watching our favorite show to listen?

Though the child may have every THING, could she tell of how she was selected to sing the solo in an upcoming play for which she auditioned, or would we be subtly distracted as we checked our various social media pages for the latest “news”?

There are so many people and things competing for our children’s attention. Yes, we provide things that they need, which is part of our parental responsibility. However, are we listening to them, I mean REALLY listening?

Do we take time to notice their body language, their facial expressions, and the tone of their voices when they try to talk to us? Is it possible that they just walk away, because we don’t even take the time to acknowledge their presence when they try to communicate with us?

Even as I write this, my heart is convicted, as I know I’ve been guilty of these things at one point or another. I want my children to know that they are loved and valued as part of our family. Besides the provision of basic life necessities, the “thing” our children need most is our time and attention. Would you agree?

Bridget McCray
Contributing Writer

Author, H.E.A.L.T.H.: It’s Not Rocket Science (My Journey to a Healthier Me)

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Model P31 Moms by Bridget McCray 


Imagine a world where there were no more broken children…a world in which no child ever had to endure the pain of his parents going through a divorce, never felt she had to question if she did something to make Daddy or Mommy go away, or experienced the feeling of “betraying” one parent because of having to live with the other.

Imagine a time in which there were no more broken children…a time when children were in an environment where there was transparency about both the joys the and challenges of relationships and were not “doomed” to repeat the mistakes of their parents without knowingly doing so.

Imagine a place where there were no more broken children…a place where before they existed, their parents came together in marriage only after much prayer, observation, and deep conversation, asking the hard questions about family history regarding relationships, finances, and other things, in an effort to avoid any destructive patterns that may have previously existed, in order to ensure a different and better future for generations to come.


Bridget McCray

Author and 2018 International Book Awards Finalist (Health: General category), H.E.A.L.T.H.: It’s Not Rocket Science (My Journey to a Healthier Me)

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Bridget McCray
Contributing Writer

Model P31 Moms by Bridget McCray 

Humble Pie!

The mom, who woke up early to take her son to an athletic camp, only to discover that the camp doesn't meet on Fridays, and her son says, "I tried to tell you, Mom," and she "rips him a new one," only to find out that he was correct, after she called her husband to verify what was on the flyer and realized that she did, indeed, overlook that important piece of information, then bursts into tears for "chewing out" her son for no reason: Yep! It was I!

This happened last summer, yet I can still see it as clearly as if it were yesterday. I cannot explain how incredibly small I felt in that moment. Immediately after hanging up with my husband, I apologized to our son and asked if he would please forgive me for what I'd just done. His response, without a hint of anger or frustration in his voice: "Yes, Ma'am."

What did I take away from that situation?

(1) Effective communication in any relationship is critical. We all want to be heard, but how often do we listen… really listen?

Our children are people, too. They want to be heard, as well. If we don’t actively listen to what they’re saying, it is likely that they will stop talking to us, telling us what’s in their hearts. Is that something we would truly want to happen? I know I wouldn’t!

Why was I so busy or distracted that I did not allow myself to stop and listen to what my son was trying to say? What a relief that there wasn’t something more serious he needed to voice at the time!

(2) I was reminded that since I have two ears and only one mouth, perhaps I should listen twice as much as I speak. Hmmm…

(3) I was able to reflect on how imperfect I am as a mom. Even more so, I couldn't help but reflect with gratitude that despite my imperfections, I am forgiven.

Thank you, Son, for being an example of one who extends forgiveness. Thank You, Father, for Your Son, Jesus, Who offers forgiveness for all who come to Him!

I will choose to put my active listening skills to work so my children will know that they can share their thoughts and concerns, whatever they may be, with me. Will you commit to doing the same?

Bridget McCray

Contributing Writer

Author, H.E.A.L.T.H.: It’s Not Rocket Science (My Journey to a Healthier Me)
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* “I would like to get healthier, but don’t really know where to begin.”

* “I have tried to take better care of myself, but it seems my efforts result in only short-term success, which is frustrating.”

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Model P31 Moms by Bridget McCray 

Life Lesson from
a Fifth Grader

About a year ago, my daughter, to whom I’ll refer as “Princess”, told me that a custodian from her school fussed at her for trying to go to the restroom when it was time for the custodian to clean it. (How would my daughter know when cleaning time is?) Of course, that did not sit well with Mama Bear. #keepingitreal

When I communicated to her teacher about what happened, the teacher said she appreciates that Princess doesn't ask to go to the restroom during instructional time and that she would speak with the custodian. I thought that would be the end of it.

Well, this same "fussing" happened twice more. Surely, Mama Bear would not have to go further with this! When I asked if Princess wanted me to speak with her teacher again, she declined, saying that she wanted to handle it herself.

Her way to handle it: Write a "thank you" card to the custodian to express her appreciation for the custodian's hard work every day. What?!? I was shocked but in a good way. Admittedly, this was NOT my first thought on how to handle the situation... that’s for sure!

When I arrived to pick her up from school, I saw Princess give the card to her. The custodian was reluctant to accept and asked what it was. When my daughter told her, the custodian thanked her profusely.

I told Princess that the custodian might not encounter people regularly who treat her with kindness. We don't know. I do my best to speak frequently with my children about the importance of treating others as we'd like to be treated. As followers of Christ, it is expected of us. It's not always easy, but it is necessary, and it's for our own good.

I was so proud of the way she handled the incident! The grace that she displayed was definitely convicting for me as a mother. I mean, I know how I’m supposed to treat others. However, knowing and doing are two different things.

I’m so grateful that God used my sweet girl to remind me of something simple I could do to make someone’s day a little brighter, even if I didn’t feel that particular someone deserved it. After all, isn’t that what the Lord Jesus did for me; for all of us?

Way to go, Princess! Mama Bear certainly learned a life lesson from a fifth grader that day. Thanks be to God!


Bridget McCray
Author, H.E.A.L.T.H.: It’s Not Rocket Science (My Journey to a Healthier Me)

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Bridget McCray - Contributing Writer